So you’ve been married and now you are divorced or perhaps even widowed — can heart marriage happen to you? Absolutely! In fact, contrary to the conventional wisdom that your experience and maturity will prevent heart marriage, the truth is that it may even be more likely! Why? Well, as a “previously married,” your relationship pattern has included all of the binding behaviors of marriage — monogamy, sexual intimacy, cohabitation and endurance over years — it has been long term by definition. Now you are inching back into the dating scene and how in the world do you date without including all of those binding behaviors?
As we have talked with audiences about our book, My Heart Got Married And I Didn’t Know It, we often encounter the divorced or widowed individual who tells us that indeed she/he has fallen into the “heart marriage” trap. Several times after speaking to college aged groups, individuals have come up and we have expected them to talk about their own relationship, but instead they have said ” I want to buy your book and give it to my mother!” So for all of you “mature daters” who are in or entering the dating scene AGAIN — check out our website, myheartgotmarried.com. It could save you some heartache!
Barbara & Lora