In this months issue of Cosmopolitan magazine (September 2010), Korin Miller has an article titled When an LTR Goes on Too Long. (LTR is a long term relationship…yea, it took me a minute, too!) Anyway- she says the same things we are saying in our book My Heart Got Married And I Didn’t Know It. Stuff like- never take a big step as a couple like moving in together without telling your partner how you feel about marriage. She says that if your partner doesn’t bring it up, you absolutely have to. She also quotes from Barton Goldsmith’s book Emotional Fitness for Intimacy, that “A lot of people in these long term relationships aren’t communicating their needs, and that’s where they develop problems.” Korin goes on to say “Breaking up after several years of dating can feel as traumatic as divorce, especially if you were living together.”
We LOVE it when people agree with us!!
Lora & Barbara